The Perspective From the Other Side . . .

Have you gone back to your high school for a visit? I don’t know about you, but everything seemed so much smaller when I went back. I believe that the smallness has to do with our perspective. While we are in school, school is important, our life revolves around everything that happens there. At school, learning, getting along with our peers, growing into adults are our life struggles, our challenging mountains. While we are climbing that steep slope to grow .. it looks huge. When we go back and are no longer climbing that mountain, we can see it with a different perspective. It is now a mountain that we conquered and it looks more realistic in size .. probably just as a small hill or a bump in the road. (click photo to enlarge I turned it on purpose .. offering a different perspective)

Troubled times, broken hearts, hardships, challenges, changes, and fears ….. appear to be huge mountains as we struggle through them. But, once we are on the other side and we look back, they look so much smaller. So small in fact that we might even wonder what we feared, why we felt so burdened, why we felt so much pain and anguish … the path is much clearer when we look back.

The greatest gift when we are struggling is the ability to trust that things will work out .. just like they have in the past. Even in the lowest moments of our life it is important to believe that we are given what we need to get through it. Angels offer their hands, blessings come our way, and strength is found in the people who care about us. The climb hurts, it is so hard to live through, but the other side offers us wisdom, learning and maybe grows our faith a little bit so we can go into our next hardship a little strong for having survived. With time, our perspective also changes.

“If we climb high enough, we will reach a height from which tragedy ceases to look tragic.” ~ Irvin D. Yalom

2011 was one of my biggest mountains. Very poor health for most of it, parents in crisis, trying to hold two full-time jobs together and numerous other little things that would pop up in the middle of it all. I am still climbing many of those mountains, however, because I have the ability to look back at the worst of it with a different perspective it is making the climb less of a struggle. I can see the top and I know that some how I will get there. One of the most important lessons I learned was that a successful climb over our mountains all comes down to faith … learning to let go of the worry and keep moving …

“Faith gives you an inner strength and a sense of balance and perspective in life.”
~ Gregory Peck

If our fear is allowed to take over and freeze us in place, we can not see all the helping hands that are there for us to grab a hold of, we can not see our way to the top, we are stuck in a place far worse than the one just a tiny step ahead of us. It is important to remember that everyone has their mountains to climb, their painful struggles .. no one is immune from the challenges of life. Even in the midst of our toughest battles, it is important to be there for others. Sharing the climb always makes it easier.

“Often it isn’t the mountains ahead that wear you out, it’s the little pebble in your shoe.” ~ Muhammad Ali


~ by bearyweather on April 14, 2012.

11 Responses to “The Perspective From the Other Side . . .”

  1. Things do look much different when we look back; usually those mountains don’t look nearly so large as when we were climbing them. The climb is always easier with someone holding your hand for support.

  2. The other side is a gift. To remember when we’re in the midst of challenge that perhaps it is smaller than it appears. I hope 2012 is a better year for you, bearyweather. Lovely photographs.

    • The other side is a gift … but, the second gift is not to let the challenge fade from our memories … there are a lot of things learned during the tough times.

  3. Hi Bearyweather, Yes, at an Alumni Day in 2009, the campus of my old alma mater in Los Angeles did look small and some of the other alumni (including some who were either famous or just socially “cool”) seemed more ordinary then they did when I studied way back in the day. By the way, I like your third paragraph a lot. Have a super great Thursday tomorrow!

  4. Inspiring post, Bearyweather. I hope this year is a smooth and easy downhill hike for you. 🙂

  5. What a wonderful essay and plenty of food for thought!

  6. When I’ve gone back to visit my high school it hasn’t seemed small, but my elementary school sure did. On the other hand, It’s been a long time since I visited my high school, and maybe by now it would seem small too.

    This is the second time in as many days that I’ve come across a blog with views like your first one turned 90° to offer a different perspective.

    Steve Schwartzman

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